5 Stages of RP Acceptance

Again, no source. Here it goes:

I suggest that you can apply the Kübler-Ross model (5 stages of grief) to RP acceptance.

Denial – Blue pill central station.

Anger – This guys text for example. His anger and resentment shine through.

Bargaining – Not a strong example but I guess it would be returning to the market but looking for unicorns, ie trying to find someone who is “not like that”

Depression – Can’t find unicorn and giving up. MGTOW, work^2, hitting gym, staying home playing video games.

Acceptance – Not just understanding RP, but accepting RP and applying the necessary changes to yourself, your attitudes and most importantly your interactions.

Things She Wants

… and you shouldn’t give.

Original post by RedPillDad:

A woman is often very conflicted, and some of the things she seeks can do more harm than good. On one hand she wants to lock you down and own you. She wants complete security. But that isn’t what she needs. If you try to please her or let her do things her way, you’ll be spinning your wheels while she sabotages everything trying to chase feeling happy in the moment, while avoiding any bad feelings.

To keep her head right, you must do things that seem wrong while avoiding some things that instinctively feel right.

Here are things she wants that you shouldn’t give:

Your Love – She loves male attention, and turning men into love-struck little boys is a boost to her vanity. But she wants the man who can hold a strong frame in the face of all her charms.

Your Respect – She wants you to be a chivalrous gentleman, but don’t treat her special. She admires a man who puts himself above her and evokes intense feelings through alternate application of pain and soothing relief.

Your Commitment – She wants the challenge of winning you over, she doesn’t value the prize that’s easily gained. Instead of being a devoted White Knight, be the gatekeeper of your commitment. Your devotion is her reward for good behavior.

Your Time and Attention – She wants you to make her #1 in your life. Instead, stay on your mission and maintain a great life of your own.

Your Resources – Some women are parasitic and will gladly use you for lodging, food, entertainment, etc. Beware of letting someone into your life who doesn’t bring anything extra to the table.

Chase – She wants to feel coveted as the prize, but disrespects any man who chases her. Instead, be the prize and give her room to chase you.

Availability – She wants you to be at her beck and call. Instead, be less available because your life is full of more important stuff. Your scarcity of time for her actually makes her want you more.

Power and Control – She wants to have complete control in the relationship. But on a primal level, she wants you to lead her, not roll over and be a submissive puppy-dog.

Freedom – She wants freedom, but she’s a pack animal. She does better when she feels connected and bound to a mate and a tribe. Given freedom and the opportunity to indulge every whim, she’ll become a train-wreck. Despite her protests, she wants you to set boundaries and rein her in.

Comfort – Instead of easing tension, spike it up. And instead of making her life easy, challenge her. Avoid complacency. Insist your mission and happiness comes before her.

Security – Don’t eliminate her insecurity. You want her to feel tension and some pangs of envy and jealousy. Women are vulnerable to competition anxiety. Seeing that some other girl wants you makes you much more attractive to her. To her those are clear indications of your value and the jealousy she feels is interpreted as a strong sign of love.

Friendship – She wants you to be her best friend. But whenever you lose your masculine frame and act as her BETA friend, she’ll feel supported but lose attraction.

Solipsism

Original title: A woman cannot tell you how you must proceed. She can only tell you what she wants to experience, by Whisper:

It’s well known that women give incredibly poor seduction and relationship advice. It’s also well known that they are completely unaware of this.

But what if we were to ask ourselves “why”? What is the common thread in all bad female advice that makes them think it’s good? How does it look good advice from their perspective?

The answer is female solipsism.

When you ask a woman for dating advice (not that you should, unless you could use a laugh), she is incapable of imagining how the world must look through your eyes. Therefore, she can only tell you what she wants it to look like from hers.

A woman who says you should do X or Y, therefore, isn’t talking crazy talk. Just self-centered narcissism talk. She’s giving you good information… IF you insert words like “I want it to look/feel like” or “I want people to think” in front of every statement.

Try it as a mental exercise.

  • “Just be yourself” = “I want to look like you’re just being yourself.”
  • “Act natural, don’t force it” = ” I want it to feel natural, not forced.”
  • “Love will just happen when you meet the right person.” = “I want it to look like it just happened without effort, because he was the right person.”
  • “Be honest” = “Sound honest.”

All the quotes on the left are bullshit non-advice. But the ones on the right describe the seduction magic we work to create.

Does it work on other statements women make, too? You bet it does.

  • “I want to be independent.” = “I want to look independent.” (I don’t, however, want to actually take responsibility for myself. That’s hard work.)
  • “I would never do that.” = “I wouldn’t want anyone knowing I did that.”
  • “I am a good person.” = “I want you to think I am a good person.”
  • “I am spiritual, but not religious.” = “I want you to think I am deep, but I do not want you to think I am dogmatic.”

We can see that pretty much every a woman says makes perfect sense if you proceed from the assumption that she is the center of the universe, and hers is the only perspective there is. If we think about, we can even start to have ideas about where female solipsism comes from.

Women are both evolved and raised to deal with people, not things. In the world of things, there is one true set of circumstances, the way things really are. Fail to grasp it, and you can’t get anything done. Your machines don’t work, your bridges collapse, your software crashes and brings down the New York Stock Exchange. But in the world of people, what’s important isn’t what’s really there, but what you can convince other people of.

To a woman, truth = consensus. It isn’t important what’s true. It’s important what you can make people believe. And telling any literal truth just weakens her ability to sell the story she wants to sell.

So when a woman tells you something, she isn’t stupidly unable to know she’s bullshitting you. Nor is she maliciously trying to pull your leg. It’s just that, to her, communication consists solely of people trying to bullshit each other. Any other possible way of communicating doesn’t enter into her awareness. That’s why you can stand ten feet from a woman and scream “What I mean is the literal content of the words I just said!”, and she will look for the hidden meaning in both that statement and the one before.

Someone steeped in that environment has no incentive to imagine what the world looks like from someone else’s point of view. To attempt to do so would be a great weakness, because it would spoil her ability to push her own point of view.

Just remember that almost anytime a woman says “this is” or “do this”, she is actually saying “this is the illusion I desire”.